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Man's Work: 1 on 1 Coaching
Clarify your vision, learn to feel your feelings, and learn how to create what you want with the help of your feelings.
Man's work is a necessary foundation for any man who wants to step into their place in the world.
As men, we need other men who love us enough to be more committed to our commitments than we are. We need men to stand with us, see us where we may not see ourselves, offer clear and precise feedback about where we are actually at, and dare to destroy our fantasies about life that stand in our way to become our authentic selves.
Many men nowadays are growing up with two choices. Choice one: Become a good boy, suppress the power of the raw feeling of anger, manipulate everyone around you for approval for a fragile ego, and give up on getting in life what you want whilst being a plaything of other people and the world.
Choice two: destroy and suppress your authentic vulnerable self and any feeling of authentic sadness or fear and join the cold, competitive, and numb lone wolf culture of men exploiting and destroying the planet.
If you read these statements above and say, "Oh, but that's not me." Read again. Look closely. This is not about judgment or blame. This is meant to reveal an aspect of your psyche that you might seldom look at. We as men have these tendencies inside and to grow up from being an immature man to becoming a Man who takes responsibility for his destiny we need to seriously investigate those facets. This is not a pleasant journey. This is a serious and painful sobering-up journey, but other choices become possible through it. The outcome of this process is not foreseeable and depends on your commitment and a portion of grace.
All men have this hunger inside for a life that is about something bigger than themselves.
This life is possible for you. It may take many years to walk the path and might never be completed, but I do not see anything more fulfilling than becoming the Man you are.
I am on your team for this. If you want support (which I highly recommend daring to ask for) I can support you for parts of the way. I can offer you a clear and powerful container for finding your "x" on your map and for finding the next steps to take on your journey.
Things I can support you with:
Reach out for a get-to-know call where we can see if we are a fit for each other.
Single Coaching Session 120-150 Euros/Dollar. Packages available according to necessity.
Online/Live Men's circle
Discover who you are as a man, take back your authoritiy, take back your authentic power.
Men are used to do things on their own. A lot of beliefs, stories, and self-image reasons are subtly woven into man's consciousness. Competition for power, being a leader and putting profit over conscience while exploiting planet Earth, competition for women, trying to be the best man at the cost of other men to be chosen as the superior mate, or adapting around powerful men to stay safe, are just a few of the dynamics men create together in the current predominant culture.
Some people even believe that a man's uninitiated nature is his true expression of masculinity. Whilst admitting, accepting, and revealing men's inherent tendencies is a powerful step, it is not the end of the journey.
Something completely else is possible. What if you could walk the earth, feeling deeply connected to the Brotherhood of Men? What if you could channel a fierce love to empower and invoke the best versions of the men around you? What if you could allow yourself to be touched by the essence of God wanting to live in every man to create a better world together and forge deep connection through that?
Men's Circle is the place where you get the necessary pressure and friction to break through your survival strategies stopping you from experiencing a different life as a different man. Where you learn to be vulnerable with your feelings, to be in an ongoing evolutionary process, and to step into your authentic power.
If you are interested in joining an ongoing weekly men's group, join for a 1-month trial.
After that follows a 3-month commitment.
25-40 euro/dollar per session.
Reach out with a short message about your intentions of joining!
Emotional and Energetic Healing Session
Unfold layers of your being.
If you are coming across certain emotional or energetic states, again and again, a healing session can support you in moving beyond the habitual pattern of your survival mechanisms. Emotional Healing Sessions are an essential part of the journey to wholeness. In a healing session, you get to know your different parts, wounds, shadows, and needs that make up your multidimensional self.
If you are not regularly taking healing sessions you are missing out on a vast resource of growth and healing in your life! Get started today!
For more information see here.
Single Session 150-120 Euro/Dollar. Packages available.
Upgrading your Gameworld to a new paradigm.
Most of what is happening in interactions between humans is happening in the context of Gameworlds. Any social system persisting of two or more people is a Gameworld. A Company is a Gameworld, a Country is a Gameworld, and a family is a Gameworld. If you do not know about Gameworlds, you are blind to the implications, rules, and unconscious agreements you have made to play in the Gameworlds that you play in.
Each Gameworld has, conscious or unconscious, a context of how people in it relate to responsibility, in other words; how they are applying their consciousness in action. If you are not aware of the context of your Gameworld you might be participating in furthering the destruction of planet earth (in some way or the other), due to not taking responsibility for the consequenses that are being created in your Gameworld. But do worry! The knowing that you are playing in a Gameworld gives you possibilities and choice. Giving the social construct you navigate in a name makes it possible for you to relate with it in new ways. You can choose to leave existing Gameworlds, let them collapse and compost so new things can be born, or get in contact with an Gameworld Consultant who is skilled in navigating your Gameworld into a liquid state out of which it is possible that a new and upgrade version of your Gameworld emerges.
If one of those Gameworlds you play in is a company, a school, or an ecovillage community that needs support with discovering where the problems in the company arise, that needs mediation and tools in interhuman processes or that wants to upgrade the thought and feelware of the participants, reach out to me, and let us have a conversation to see if I can help.
Rage CLub/Fear Club
Unlock the power of your conscious anger/your conscious fear.
Anger and fear are in our culture mostly stigmatized as bad and wrong feelings. Living like that you might have twisted yourself into a knot with seeing no way out of your suffering. Shifting out of the labeling of these feelings as something wrong is a process that takes time and practice. This is what Rage Club and Fear Club is for!
Here you will discover that anger and fear are neutral sources of information for your life. If you allow yourself to feel, you get access to a vast amount of resources that weren't accessible before. You get access to what you care about and are scratching at the door to the archetypal domains of the warrior/ess and the wizard/ess.
Rage Club & Fear Club can happen in live workshops & online.
Reach out to hear about upcoming events or if you want to organize an event/festival with Rage/Fear workshops.
Free Consultation Call
Lets get to know each other!
You can see this as a free coaching call. You will find clarity about what you want and what your next steps are. For me, this call is also a chance to find out if you have the commitment it needs to make a change in your life.
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Since I was a 6-year-old child, I was fascinated with beings who dedicated their life to spiritual growth. When I first heard the stories of Buddha, Zarathustra, and Jesus a cord of longing was struck inside me to go on a spiritual journey myself. Something about a life dedicated to truth made more sense, than what else was offered in the modern world. Even though that was there and I jokingly said that I wanted to become a monk when I grew up, I did not follow that longing for the first 18 years of my life.
I grew up in Bonn, Germany, went 13 years to a Waldorf school, and lived a not-very eventful youth. Sadly my life was dominated by ways of trying to escape reality through different addictions to substances, screens, and sexualized content. After 18 years I started questioning my suffering. First I found fault with the world, looked into all possible conspiracies, and then I started looking into my own psyche. I started meditation and went to a first healing community event in Schloss Tempelhof in Germany, where I somehow very clearly knew that I was there to look into why I felt so numb towards everything. I had the beautiful experience of being able to cry for the first time again after many years of numbness.
This was the starting point for my healing journey within a community context.
After finishing school I was very clear that I wanted to travel to expand my horizons and find myself. I went to New Zealand, where I spent four months in a Vipassana Center, nearly committing to become a monk! My humor-spoken childhood dreams were close to coming to fulfillment. Friends of mine from back then are now monks in Myanmar!
When I came back to Germany, my parents gave their best to talk me out of my Buddhist dreams, and succeeded!
Here followed a short period of looking for alternative schooling systems. I felt inside me the vision to participate in a new school form that allows children to grow up while remembering their sacred essence. I visited different places like the Lais School and the Weinberg School in Austria and came to the conclusion I need to heal and learn more myself before I can give something to the youth.
What I chose then, was to study Economics and Social Responsibility at the alternative "Cusanus" university which had the vision to reform the normal universities that taught economics and philosophy and make it more real. I had a great time in the community there, had some of the most fun dance parties of my life, and started to explore non-violent communication for which I created little practice groups. For the following years I continued meditation, learning more about different traditions, and visiting "Advaita Vedanta" retreats with teachers like Mooji and Rupert Spira.
Whilst studying I noticed quickly, that economics was not my jam. I was more interested in the social dynamics in the classroom than in the content, so I decided to quit university and start Gestalt therapy training in Freiburg im Breisgau.
My two years in Freiburg were some of the most beautiful memories in my life. The Gestalt therapy training was a needed healing container for me to connect deeply to my basic needs of connection, acceptance, and being with what is. Further, I co-created a sharing group with people who committed to meeting two times a week to go deeper into their internal processes. Being in a group space with people who are willing to share what's alive inside of them helped me grow a lot of capacities. During that time I visited different communities like Go&Change Gemeinschaft Sulzbrunn and had totally mind and heart-expanding experiences, being sure, to be on the right path to more love and a more fulfilled life.
Even though there was a lot of beauty in that time a dark shadow of addiction to screens and sexualized content was woven through those years. An even deeper healing was needed for me to stop my destructive habits.
In my last year in Freiburg, after going through 2 years of Gestalt therapy training, spending more than 100 days in meditation retreats, and exploring different healing and transformational contexts I found Possibility Management. A Path and a Community I felt was including the multidimensionality and complexity of the human experience. The distinctions, processes, and initiations I discovered in Possibility Management have given me a different choice of living the life that I want to live.
I committed myself to be a Possibilitater, someone who dedicates himself to walking the path of Possibility Management. Living in the awareness that the vast resources of Bright Principles are accessible at every moment, to work through me in the world.
I am Love
I am Connection.
I am Integrity
I am Transformation.
I am Discovery.
Now I am going where my archetypal lineage calls me knowing that I work together with forces that go beyond my comprehension.
My latest healing adventures brought me to explore different communities in Germany and Canada.
I stayed for 5 months at Chuckleberry Farm in Canada and got to experience deep layers of coming back home to myself through an ongoing relational field of connection with other explorers in the realm of consciousness.
And the journey continues!
Thats what the amazing people I worked with say.
Consultant for Development Cooporations and Coach
I know Kian as a friend and also as a colleague. He has, again and again, inspired me and brought new impulses to my life, so I got curious to work with him as a Coach. We worked on finding the clarity and energy for creating a project that’s really dear to me. In a series of sessions, we discovered different situations in my past, where I disempowered myself and took decisions that were still blocking me today. We went through highly energetic processes in which I could take back my energy and my authority to go forward. With that, I found new clarity, but most importantly it feels that some things in my being shifted so that I can move more freely towards where I want to go.
Master of Science and Psychologist and Psychotherapist in Training
I can highly recommend Kian's coachings. He is really dedicated to work with the essence of life's experiences and supports you in your processes towards a more deliberate life. I enjoyed meeting myself and my deepest emotions led by him. Treat yourself! ;)
Thank you so much for having crossed my way and the light that you brought into my healing journey.
Die Räume die Kian für mich gehalten hat, habe ich als wach, liebevoll, intim und klar erlebt.
Die Liebe, die Kian in den Raum bringt, macht es mir leicht mich zu öffnen. Besonders die Verbindung zwischen meinem physischem Körper zu meinen Gefühlen erlebe ich besonders stark und heilsam.
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